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post Mar 15 2016, 09:46 PM
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I guess this kind of spins off from the how BuzzJack has influenced your life thread (kinda). I was wondering, how openly to you talk about BuzzJack in your everyday, non internet life? Is it something you can bring up with people really easily or do you keep the two separate? Do you fall somewhere in the middle where you mention some things but not everything?

For me, I don't really share anything about who I talk to online etc but I think if someone where to bring up "internet friendships" or forums etc I would. I think I'm still kind of conscious of people not understanding that the relationships you form on here are just as important and valid as the ones you form irl. Do you guys feel that a lot of people still fear the internet and are caught up in the idea of not really knowing who is on the other side of the screen? I know that's what stops me from talking about my online friends with my parents as I think the older generation are still very much in that mindset, of course knowing who you're talking to and being careful with the information you put out there is very important but not everyone on the internet is out to catfish you laugh.gif
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:00 PM
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For a long long time this was a place called 'the chart forum'. My parents would always see me holed up in my room religiously glued to my computer screen spamming in the chart thread on a Sunday and were a bit curious. This was all they knew of it.

Thennn my dad noticed me spending a lot more time on here and once looked over my shoulder one time while I was on plug.dj. He asked me what it was and I just said me "and people from the chart forum" are taking turns playing songs and then no more of it was heard.

I'd never bring up BuzzJack in school. I was quite sneaky about it actually 'cause I'd only ever go on it at school if I was in a free period by myself.

Then Brade happened and I kinda had to mention this site to be honest. I told my dad we met 'on the chart forum' but I was still hesitant to say 'BuzzJack' 'cause I didn't want him to stalk my posts or anything laugh.gif Then when my friends were asking me how we met I said online (one was really pushy though - I eventually said 'a music forum' and he was like 'which one??' and then he said 'are you lying to me? did you actually meet on a porn site or something?? ! laugh.gif). So yes this developed things a bit.

Since then there was a really weird moment. I was on rabb.it with quite a few people a few weeks ago and my brother decided to join in. I was using loads of BuzzJack lingo like BJSC in front of my brother which felt so strange! So I think I'm slowly integrating general non-Brade things to do with BuzzJack into my real life as well. But just with my brother for now.

Also yesterday I had a tutorial with one of my lecturers. We have to write a personal column and I really didn't know what to do for it so she kept pushing me for "something interesting about myself" and she got all nosy and asked about my relationship status eventually. She once again asked where we met ('online') and then where online ('a music forum') which again felt a bit weird.

ULTIMATELY though I think I'm okay with expressing vaguely that I'm on a music forum. Like I don't think it's something to be embarrassed about. I just don't want to share the specific details, e.g. that it's called BuzzJack. I think it's just that I like to separate this place as a whole from my real life and feel a bit uncomfortable at the thought of my friends/family stalking me on here laugh.gif
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:01 PM
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I'm open in that if my friends ask me where I found a song, or ask me who I'm talking to on FB, I'm happy with saying like "oh I heard it in BJSC" or "they're from BJ" but I don't really tend to go out of my way to talk about it if that makes sense? laugh.gif I don't really know if any of my friends really get what BJ is but they don't really care tbh

In the past I used to completely hide my online life/friends, I only really opened up about my friendship with Lindsey and Cameron in the last couple of years. Still not quite sure why I went to such aggressive lengths to hide it :')
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:11 PM
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My sister does know about Buzzjack~ I've told her about BJSC also, she was surprised to hear someone had entered The Summer Set *.* (one of her favourites from what I can tell)

Not much outside that. Sometimes when I browsed the site on my phone my dad would ask me what i'm looking at, I would just say it's "a music forum" and there would be no further enquiries about it lol :3
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:12 PM
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I've been on BuzzJack before once in college and I was typing something really long (90% of my posts tbh) and my friend thought I was doing a words per minute thing so I was like no it's a music forum laugh.gif then but that's all that was said, they know I'm a bit of a music nerd so that probably wasn't a surprising thing to say. I don't think people really realise friendships are formed through forums, like if you said you have a friend from the internet, most people would assume you met on twitter or tumblr etc.

I want to be a lot more open about the fact I have friends I met through the internet, especially about Lotti as it's weird feeling like I can't mention the one person I'm closest to. I did talk to one friend two or three years ago about it as she was aware of the game we met through and her reaction honestly could not have been worse so that's kinda scared me a bit about talking about Lotti or you guys with my group of friends now, I'm just not sure how they'll react. I was really hurt by this former friends reaction, she basically laughed in my face, thought it was weird and creepy etc, not to mention she thought Lotti was a guy I was in a relationship with, like what guy has the name Lotti :') I'm also really bad at explaining things and I just get nervous and stuttery when talking about something personal to me so there's that too laugh.gif
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:17 PM
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No one irl knows I'm on this and I really want to keep it that way because I couldn't imagine how they would react. laugh.gif

It's why I can be reluctant to reveal certain bits about me which can be sad but I don't really want to anyone find me here.
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:18 PM
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QUOTE(ℒ𝓲𝓷⻤ @ Mar 15 2016, 10:12 PM) *
not to mention she thought Lotti was a guy I was in a relationship with, like what guy has the name Lotti :')


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post Mar 15 2016, 10:19 PM
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my parents do know about buzzjack but they respect my wish to not bring it up or mention it to friends. It's just a part of my life I want to keep to myself really.
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:19 PM
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QUOTE(Jade @ Mar 15 2016, 10:00 PM) *
I'd never bring up BuzzJack in school. I was quite sneaky about it actually 'cause I'd only ever go on it at school if I was in a free period by myself.


Ha, that reminds me of when I was first discovering this site and sneaking on to it in free periods in sixth form, hoping that no one would ask what was on the screen, and therefore barely going into threads because of the signatures at that time. So I was always ready to switch tabs. Which looks completely normal, of course.

I can mention 'the music forum' to my family. If they ask about it, I may have brought up my management duties once or twice in excuses to escape from familial social situations - again I'm cool. Obviously my brother knows about it now, well, he knew about it for ages as I'd get him on the case to send me recommendations for BJSC. I never actually imagined he'd sign up here, so now it's fun seeing him interact with people on here but at the same time, knowing he is definitely reading my essays... But like, it's okay because we're friends as well as brothers. I've told my cousin a bit more than normal as well, he's an admin (and now developer) on a forum for a specific game so can relate. Never to someone who's not family and I don't already have a good relationship with. But I don't MIND if they find out, there's nothing on here I really want to hide.

I sometimes wonder what an acquaintance in real life would think of me after reading my posts on here. I'm a lot more expressive here as I find it so much easier to put thoughts into writing.
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:31 PM
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A few friends and my parents know I use a music forum, although my parents have probably forgotten seeing as its been a while since I last mentioned it. My friends know as it's the source of a lot of things I play at them.

One knows more than most, because she is a member of online communities and shit so gets it. She helped me vote in BJSC once and as a result bought the Caravan Palace album because she loved the song so much!


I don't think i'll ever really advertise the name of the forum. I like that I've got somewhere that I can be myself, or at least express parts of myself I don't in day to day life.
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:32 PM
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I've not mentioned anything about the website to anybody in my real life, I've been caught on a forum before from my friends which is something that I've laughed on, I'm not overly fussed admitting I was on a forum but I wouldn't like to say anything because this is something which doesn't involve my friends? I enjoy that I can rant / be a chart a geek without them knowing. My friends know two names from this website but I've lied about why I know them kink.gif

I've became a lot more hesitant recently about accepting people / following people on social media because it's becoming more visible that's why I don't accept a lot of people just to avoid it becoming suspicious.

I would have always kept the website and my real life separate until recently, I wouldn't mind some of my friends meeting certain individuals though although I'd be worried 24/7 that they would slip up and announce we met each other on a forum.

I don't really talk about music to my friends, I mean when 'Lush Life' came on in my friends car, I couldn't provide the excitement I wanted to due to none of them having a clue what the song was, I was patiently sitting there like "oh this is quite good. My friends know I stan The Saturdays and I get a bad enough slagging from them.


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post Mar 15 2016, 10:37 PM
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QUOTE(Iz~ @ Mar 15 2016, 10:19 PM) *
Ha, that reminds me of when I was first discovering this site and sneaking on to it in free periods in sixth form, hoping that no one would ask what was on the screen, and therefore barely going into threads because of the signatures at that time. So I was always ready to switch tabs. Which looks completely normal, of course.

Oh my gosh the struggle of this! I remember awkwardly scrolling past 'Anaconda' signatures many a time in the common room. laugh.gif

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I've just realised, I used to tell my friends about the times when I was on Glee Wiki (and my friends on there / the fact that I was an admin lolz) and didn't find this embarrassing at all. Yet I feel reluctant to open up about the specifics of this place. Perhaps I've just become a bit more private over the years about my 'online life'. I don't really know why I feel so hesitant to delve into the specifics when I have loads of you on FB/Twitter etc, I think it's just the whole uncomfortableness of people from my 'IRL' finding my escapism place. And like Iz said, I also share way more on here than I do in real life so I think I'd feel really awkward if say one of my friends pulled me up on something I'd said on here.
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One of my old friends I used to know years ago knew, but aside from that I never mention this place to anybody IRL.
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post Mar 15 2016, 10:42 PM
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My family vaguely know about Buzzjack, they definitely know I use a music forum that I spend quite a bit of time on but it doesn't come up in conversation or anything as...it doesn't need to, same with social acquaintances though I don't mention it to my friends ;o It's just not something they really need to know about, it hasn't come to the point where it's impacted my life so much to tell them.

I prefer to keep it seperate really, I love this place but it's more an escapism from real life than anything else. It's like...two separate worlds. That's not to discredit this place, it's definitely a place I can express myself fully and for that I'm thankful.


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post Mar 15 2016, 10:54 PM
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Lindsey, this is a great thread which will be interesting to read! I've had thoughts of creating a similar one.

Get ready for an essay, folks cool2.gif

I've actually been fairly open about some parts of Buzzjack to some of my real-life friends and family. I feel like I don't need to keep it secret as such because it's been a big part of my life, but there are times where I feel sort of awkward about the fact that they know about it.

One of my real-life friends, who I just recently caught up with (it made me emotional tbh), made an account in order to join BJSC years and years ago (he was gonna send a song that would've flopped badly I think kink.gif). However, that never took off, he never started posting or anything. He has a completely different life now too, we had a rather deep conversation about this when I saw him a few days ago. He told me he wants to stay away from the internet as much as possible, focus on real life etc. So he would never start posting here, at least not now. And maybe that's a good thing, I'm not sure. I've had a real-life friend here on the forum before, who actually brought me to the forum all those years ago. He recently returned for BJSC for one contest, but other than that, he no longer posts. It makes me happy that he would feel comfortable enough to tell me about a forum on the internet that he visits and to actually get me to join. I don't think we had even known each other for that long at that stage, well we had maybe talked for a year, and so it's great that he felt comfortable enough to do that. And it became such a big part of my everyday life! So I guess I tried to do the same with that other friend of mine, but that didn't take off as I said.

I always find myself mentioning the forum to my friend who brought me here, and he actually gets annoyed at all the Buzzjack talk laugh.gif So I try to limit it, as I can imagine it may indeed be annoying for someone who doesn't come here (anymore).

I have mentioned the forum many times to one of my cousins because she's just such a good friend to me and I think it would be unlikely that she wouldn't know about something that I'm involved with at such a high level. She found it extremely amusing btw when the site went down a few months ago and everyone was freaking out rotf.gif She was also tempted to join the forum a few years ago, but ended up not doing it. I'm happy with that tbh. I can't imagine what it's like for Lindsey and Cameron/Iz and Jacob Alan to have each other on here tbh, I'd probably feel a bit weird having my cousin here, let alone my sister! Although I can definitely imagine that it would be fun and interesting to see a real-life friend/family member interacting with your internet buddies! Obviously I sort of had that with the friend who brought me here, but I wasn't really close with anyone here at that stage. And he didn't post that much during the edition of BJSC he was recently in. I think he made two posts.

Even my mum knows. She even knows that I won BJSC, it came up because it was very relevant and I kinda had to tell her, long story lmao. She started asking all these questions about it which was actually really embarrassing, because I always feel like it might be a bit of a geeky thing to do or whatever, even though I love it and no disrespect of course! My sister, who I can talk to about most things, knows about BJSC too (and the forum in general, although we don't discuss it much) and she said to me that she doesn't find it geeky at all.

I find it difficult to talk about stuff with my mum anyway so I tend to feel awkward talking to her about a lot of things but I won't go into that lmao. She was very impressed with my win, however, especially considering the amount of songs that were entered (she was very surprised there were that many!) and she urged me to host it lolol, and I now wish I had, but I just didn't feel up to it at the time. Plus my internet was having one of its shit periods at the time and I was worried that hosting would be very inconvenient with such a bad connection sad.gif But I think I'll try to host it should I ever win again or whatever! You guys were very supportive and trying to encourage me, thank you very much <3

I don't mention Buzzjack to acquaintances, it doesn't come up or anything and I mean, that would be a weird conversation I think. Sometimes I feel weird when acquaintances ask me what I've been up to and stuff, I mean I never feel like saying "I spend a lot of time on this forum" etc and I know that sounds as if I'm ashamed even though I'm not, it just feels weird. I could mention it briefly, of course, but I wouldn't ever go into detail about it to them I think. It's just that most people in my everyday life just talk about real-life things in situations like that, and while I do have a real life too (a bit, lol), I find that Buzzjack just takes up a very large amount of my time these days and I just don't really talk about that with just anyone.

I don't particularly worry about the fact that I'm friends with people I've never met in real life. This is just something that has happened to all of us and we are all in it together, if you know what I mean. I don't even worry so much about meeting you guys in real life anymore, although I think I would probably still be very shy in a big group setting (I even get shy on Rabb.it sometimes), like a big party get-together or something of that nature, but I would like to meet a member sometime. In the last Awards, the three people I nominated for who I wanna meet most were: Lindsey, JSG, JakeWild wink.gif The last one almost happened recently. Close, but no cigar. And there are other members I'd love to meet too! I think I just overthink and overanalyse these things and worry about how I might come across or whatever, and also I think I have a hard time hiding my emotions in these situations, so if I'm feeling uncomfortable, it will probably show. And I tend to worry that I won't have anything to talk about. I have no way of telling what it would be like until it actually happens, it could end up being really EASY and amazing, or it could be a disaster thanks to my awkwardness or whatever... I just don't know. Maybe that's the beauty of it, that you can't know until it happens. I just hope it will happen at some point and that it will be enjoyable.

I am so incredibly sorry for the length guys! I just find this thread incredible already *.* That really was a good move Lindsey!
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I haven't told anyone about this website but there was one day a few months ago when I was browsing Buzzjack at work when I had nothing to do whilst counting down the hours until home time when a colleague came near my desk to chat to someone else who was next to me and she asked me what I was looking at. I sheepishly said "it's just a forum", afterwards I was thinking that she might grass me up to my boss but luckily she didn't tell my boss laugh.gif

Just like another person said it's a bit of escapism from what is going on in the real world and some of the music that I've heard was first discovered by reading the chart threads.
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QUOTE(FührerWall @ Mar 15 2016, 10:58 PM) *
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I am SORRY!!! I just HAD to!
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Well my parents know briefly about it but doesnt get brought up I am more worried they see my post especially my perving on men posts, considering not out yet kink.gif

My closest friend right now knows and has even been on Dub and Rabbit, he is okay with it and he knows I use it for escapism biggrin.gif

I never expected to make so much friends here some I wouldn't imagine myself not speaking to tbh laugh.gif I know that sounds so weird but I couldnt imagine not speaking to like loads of people here laugh.gif
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QUOTE(Mattias @ Mar 15 2016, 10:54 PM) *
I always find myself mentioning the forum to my friend who brought me here, and he actually gets annoyed at all the Buzzjack talk laugh.gif So I try to limit it, as I can imagine it may indeed be annoying for someone who doesn't come here (anymore).

I have mentioned the forum many times to one of my cousins because she's just such a good friend to me and I think it would be unlikely that she wouldn't know about something that I'm involved with at such a high level. She found it extremely amusing btw when the site went down a few months ago and everyone was freaking out rotf.gif She was also tempted to join the forum a few years ago, but ended up not doing it. I'm happy with that tbh. I can't imagine what it's like for Lindsey and Cameron/Iz and Jacob Alan to have each on here tbh, I'd probably feel a bit weird having my cousin here, let alone my sister! Although I can definitely imagine that it would be fun and interesting to see a real-life friend/family member interacting with your internet buddies! Obviously I sort of had that with the friend who brought me here, but I wasn't really close with anyone here at that stage. And he didn't post that much during the edition of BJSC he was recently in. I think he made two posts.

I don't particularly worry about the fact that I'm friends with people I've never met in real life. This is just something that has happened to all of us and we are all in it together, if you know what I mean. I don't even worry so much about meeting you guys in real life anymore, although I think I would probably still be very shy in a big group setting (I even get shy on Rabb.it sometimes), like a big party get-together or something of that nature, but I would like to meet a member sometime. In the last Awards, the three people I nominated for who I wanna meet most were: Lindsey, JSG, JakeWild wink.gif The last one almost happened recently. Close, but no cigar. And there are other members I'd love to meet too! I think I just overthink and overanalyse these things and worry about how I might come across or whatever, and also I think I have a hard time hiding my emotions in these situations, so if I'm feeling uncomfortable, it will probably show. And I tend to worry that I won't have anything to talk about. I have no way of telling what it would be like until it actually happens, it could end up being really EASY and amazing, or it could be a disaster thanks to my awkwardness or whatever... I just don't know. Maybe that's the beauty of it, that you can't know until it happens. I just hope it will happen at some point and that it will be enjoyable.


IMPRESSIVE essay skills as always, I think you've outdone yourself there. So much there for people to reply to if they can get to the right parts.

Of the parts I haven't quoted, that's so cute with your family about your win in BJSC. Hopefully you do get a chance to host at some point in the future, I've wanted to attempt a hosting for so long so I can sympathise.

It's FINE. Really, fine. Like, I always hope he doesn't mess anything up because I care for him and now because I've written that he'll know, but seeing him get on with people I've known for so long is very heartening. And there's no chance he'll ever outstrip me so I have no rivalry concerns. biggrin.gif

Especially because I feel so free to post whatever I please right now, I'm at total comfort with this site and know that you won't send me packing for liberal usage of sarcasm, dry wit, friendly banter and knowing that something I say that could be taken in the wrong way isn't meant to be taken that way.

The being friends with people you've never met in real life thing is something I very much relate to. I consider Bre, Lee, Rob et al among my closest friends now I've known them for so long as friends in real life have drifted and my current set of friends are mostly people I haven't known for half the time I've been here. Maybe eventually we'll someday meet, I just hope it would live up to the fun I have across the internet.

QUOTE(Hazza Chapman @ Mar 15 2016, 10:59 PM) *
I haven't told anyone about this website but there was one day a few months ago when I was browsing Buzzjack at work when I had nothing to do whilst counting down the hours until home time when a colleague came near my desk to chat to someone else who was next to me and she asked me what I was looking at. I sheepishly said "it's just a forum", afterwards I was thinking that she might grass me up to my boss but luckily she didn't tell my boss laugh.gif


I think more people (at least among younger people) than you'd expect would be on forums or discussion site outside of social media. It's natural for people to want to see discussion about the things you like, I'm sure she thought nothing of it.
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