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post Jan 18 2018, 05:31 PM
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The other topic inspired me

How good are ya’ll at making random friends? I’d say I’m probably too good, last time I went out I shared a toilet cubicle with this random girl whilst giving her advice on getting with someone (yes from me mellow.gif). I find it really easy just to talk to particularly girls when drunk, it’s usually lipstick talk though ngl
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post Jan 18 2018, 05:33 PM
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I'm bad at this.
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post Jan 18 2018, 05:34 PM
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Throwback to when Liam, Bal and Rob found me crying over some random women I met in the toilets
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post Jan 18 2018, 05:44 PM
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I can make friends in the bathroom on a night out no bother, me and my friend once helped a girl do her makeup (drunk) because she was asking to borrow some foundation from my friend laugh.gif I'm REALLY bad at talking to people in the club or at the bar though and it's not that I don't have the social skills, I just can't bloody hear a thing anyone is saying to me mellow.gif Most of the people I've had proper talks with on nights out have been at pubs where it's quieter or outside at the smoking area. I remember I was outside the pub once and the bar girl was outside too on a break and I was just chatting away to her and then it turned out she was one of the store managers at my work's daughter :') There was also the guy who couldnt talk, read or write in english and he gave me a christmas card once. There was also the girl that stopped me when we were looking for a club last summer in glasgow to discuss my jacket.

New Year was really good for talking to randomers because everyone was so happy and friendly, literally anyone you passed would wish you a happy new year and give you a hug, I feel like because of that people were more likely to just come up to you so I spoke to loads of people that night. As previously mentioned in the smoking thread, Jill and Sheena were the true icons that night. They were lesbian neighbours in their 60s at least and Lew found them at the smoking area, we talked to them for ages and then kept bumping into them throughout the night. Jill told me and Harve about how she got interviewed for something in her attic by STV or something and we ended up spending most of the night with them I think, we even waited with them until they got their taxi and got a squad photo with them from the club photographer laugh.gif
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:00 PM
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Do you know where I ALWAYS make new friends? Taxi queues. There is always someone interesting to talk to.
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:10 PM
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Maybe it is because I don't have alcohol in my system during nights out, but I don't have many instances of making random friends, I usually stick with the people I came with laugh.gif Having said that, during freshers' week a girl came on her own and sat with me and my friend and we ended up spending the whole night with her and she is lovely, we still talk whenever we bump into each other around Uni! So that is one nice lil example. Random people do like to chat to me when I am out and about however at times, like at the bus stop. Occasionally people have come over to me and randomly sat with me in the Greggs we have at Uni if I have been on my own also. I have been told that I look quite approachable (I will always use the example of old ladies leaving their shopping with me while they go to the loo in McDonalds laugh.gif) so maybe that's something to do with it. Anyway, I am far too socially anxious to randomly strike up a conversation with a random person on a night out, but if someone starts the conversation with me (like that girl I mentioned) then I would try and respond to them if they seemed friendly.
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:13 PM
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It definitely does not happen as much as you get older - trust me.

All the best random mates I made, I was young, naive and 18.
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:15 PM
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What happens if you're a late bloomer though? : '( is there no hope lolz
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:16 PM
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I recall once having a late night philosophical conversation about how space is expanding or something with some randomers outside a club *_ I never have the confidence to talk to randomers on public transport or otherwise, but I will always be up for it if someone else is.
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post Jan 18 2018, 07:21 PM
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I took the plunge and started talking to a randomer on a train once last year. He seemed chill. We only talked for around ten minutes cos he had to get off and I felt weird about asking for his FB or something stupid like that... like what do you even do? We just had a very casual conversation about where we were travelling, and about studying. So it just would've been too early and weird.

The funny thing is, I just remembered this earlier, yesterday I was in a grocery store and I think I saw him lmao. He saw me too and he looked like he recognized me but I wasn't sure so we didn't talk. Later on I felt like such a creep cos I was hoping to like bump into him again in the store or outside of it so I could be like "Hey! Did I talk to you on a train once? ohmy.gif"

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post Jan 18 2018, 08:02 PM
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QUOTE(M. @ Jan 18 2018, 07:15 PM) *
What happens if you're a late bloomer though? : '( is there no hope lolz


loads of time, it never stops, trust me. Some of my current closest friends were people I talked to in bars in the 2000's just randomly (in my 40's) - bear in mind I'd never gone into a bar of any sort on my own in my life, I was that sheltered and shy!

I'm still making new friends almost every year - if you get on with people why wouldn't you?
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post Jan 18 2018, 08:14 PM
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QUOTE(Popchartfreak @ Jan 18 2018, 08:02 PM) *
loads of time, it never stops, trust me. Some of my current closest friends were people I talked to in bars in the 2000's just randomly (in my 40's) - bear in mind I'd never gone into a bar of any sort on my own in my life, I was that sheltered and shy!

I'm still making new friends almost every year - if you get on with people why wouldn't you?

aw thanks <3 I've never gone into a bar or anything on my own either haha (I've gone with company), I've considered it but I just see myself as too shy. The problem I'm running into is that I barely made friends at school (I made one that lasted) and I've never made a friend at uni (currently I'm just there for an evening course but I've decided to try join up with the swimming society there at least) so I'm not sure how to come out of my shell now, in my mid-twenties, in a town where I feel like I've very little in common with most people.

I'm gonna stop posting in this thread soon, all these things are having a really negative effect on my mindset right now.

me crying out when I post these posts:



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post Jan 18 2018, 08:36 PM
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I wouldn't go to a pub myself but there are people who do with the intention of meeting people. If it really does bother you that you feel like you've missed the boat in terms of going out, you haven't and there is no age limit really, yea I'd say it's mostly 18-30 year olds but there are clubs for older folk as well so you have decades left before you're "too old". Try and organise a class night out or make friends with people in your course? Or if none of those sound good, join a club or society or even get a part time/voluntary job. Go to gigs and make friends there, there's so many ways to meet people now, even online too.

Clubbing isn't for everyone though so you aren't missing out on much, it's only worth it if you're out with the right people tbh.
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post Jan 18 2018, 09:54 PM
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I make friends every time I go out. I am just a 100% mess when drinking... I hate it. I legit have loads of photos with randomers on my phone lmao
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post Jan 18 2018, 10:08 PM
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Omg legit me but I get too comfortable and my worst is throwing myself at a straight guy who's not even that hot just bc he's tall and nice


I am worse for it at pres than when actually out, everyone is my bff for the duration of that pres just because I like the fact they're drinking wine or sth

QUOTE(lotita. @ Jan 18 2018, 05:34 PM) *
Throwback to when Liam, Bal and Rob found me crying over some random women I met in the toilets

TWO KIDS!1!1
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post Jan 19 2018, 03:56 AM
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At a jazz club ten years ago I met a really friendly young woman who I danced with a few times. We added each other on Facebook, became friends and still bump into each other from time to time.

She now has her own Wikipedia page and is probably the most famous person I know! Really happy for her smile.gif
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post Jan 19 2018, 06:20 AM
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I'm very good at making friends when I'm already with other people because I guess it gives me a boost. If I'm starting out on my own though I have no chance.
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post Jan 19 2018, 11:11 AM
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QUOTE(BillyH @ Jan 19 2018, 03:56 AM) *
At a jazz club ten years ago I met a really friendly young woman who I danced with a few times. We added each other on Facebook, became friends and still bump into each other from time to time.

She now has her own Wikipedia page and is probably the most famous person I know! Really happy for her smile.gif


Omg Eunice!!!
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post Jan 19 2018, 11:14 AM
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I almost always make a random friend or two when I go out. I don't get to go out much anymore because it's expensive, but a lot of my current good friends are people I met randomly at parties or on nights out. Hell, a good chunk of friendships I've made online have also been from drunk nights!!! (lotti i'm looking at u)
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post Jan 19 2018, 12:06 PM
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QUOTE(Cameron @ Jan 19 2018, 11:11 AM) *
Omg Eunice!!!

Omg queen *.*
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