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Anyone Else Cringe When Asking For References?
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Ronald McJackson
post Apr 18 2018, 06:56 PM
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For me, it is one of the worst parts of the job hunt.

I absolutely hate going to bosses I knew in the past and asking them to be my referee for a new job. I usually don't even speak to them, other than asking this, and I feel like I am wasting their time by asking them to do it. Also, sometimes I have to really scrape the bottom of the barrel to find some one to use.

It's just really not enjoyable and I have never liked asking for them.

One of the worst was when I went to work in a summer camp and I had to go to my uni professor to get a reference and it was completely unrelated to my degree and not a graduate job.

And also since it's been so long since some of my jobs, the person I go to may not even remember me that well so it is always an annoying part of the job hunt.
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Mack.
post Apr 18 2018, 07:01 PM
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No, doesn't really make me cringe unless they know something that you did at work that was bad. Although can be annoying if you haven't got many that you can ask for a reference.

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post Apr 18 2018, 07:11 PM
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Nah I don't mind too much as long as we have a good relationship! I don't think I have been too much trouble for anyone thus far. My current trio of referees includes the editor of Your Cat magazine laugh.gif *.*
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post Apr 18 2018, 07:16 PM
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No, I don't mind.. I usually only ask people that I get on well with or have had a good working relationship with so that usually makes it easy.

The cardinal sin is nominating someone as a referee and not asking them first. I've had that happen to me before.. RUDE!
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post Apr 18 2018, 07:22 PM
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Yeah, the only reason this would be an issue is if your relationship with them had soured or you did something bad that got you fired.
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post Apr 18 2018, 07:50 PM
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Not really, it's actually find it quite nice catching up with them when you ask them!
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post Apr 18 2018, 08:01 PM
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Not at all. The worst they can do is not provide one.
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post Apr 18 2018, 08:17 PM
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References are just there to get an insight from someone that knows you professionally/personally, I've asked for loads before and it's never a burden. You shouldn't really get self-conscious about the type of job as all entry level and higher positions ask for it and the most important thing about a reference is that they know you so uni references are fine for first jobs etc.
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post Apr 19 2018, 06:42 PM
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I've never been in a position where I've had to ask for one. I think my CV just says something like "Referees available on request". I've had to get a reference from a previous landlord though, I just called him on the phone and he sent me the reference by e-mail which I printed out. But yes, I guess it was a little awkward cos I'm not always great at talking on the phone.
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post Apr 19 2018, 06:53 PM
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References are just there so that companies can check (if they wish) that you have not completely lied in your CV. It's usually a generic reference and not a personal one as it's unethical to give a bad reference. So I wouldn't worry about it, just put the general payroll/HR administration services and they will provide a reference of employment. If anyone provides character references.

I suspect the process will die out in the future anyhow, it's needles administration work.
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post Apr 19 2018, 07:21 PM
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No, why would I cringe about something that's asked of all employers nationwide?! Strange it'd make you cringe. They won't give a shit.
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post Apr 19 2018, 07:31 PM
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How bizarre! If anything they’ll be pleased that you’ve come to them for a reference.

I approached my referees when I applied for my job and they were absolutely fine with it. Like someone said, what’s the worst that can happen?
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post Apr 19 2018, 07:46 PM
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I get where Tombo's coming from, I had anxiety doing this (except when just putting generic ones, which is what I generally do unless asked for now). It was just at the start where I had few and I was mostly worried about overusing my character references although I don't think most places follow them up until you're almost employed (or after in some cases). But it's all turned out fine and I have plenty of good options now for the future.

I have bugbears with them though, especially when references are asked for before you've even put in the first application or at a similarly early stage. Well, asked for to be used later is fine. If they indicate they're going to contact them before interview that seems needless busywork to me.
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post Apr 20 2018, 08:11 AM
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I don’t think my references have ever been chased up laugh.gif
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Tawdry Hepburn
post Apr 20 2018, 09:04 AM
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I remember once a reference got chased and they sent my previous manager a form which was REALLY exhaustive in its questioning, as in would take a long time to be filled out. I was just like... why?
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