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Howís Your Social Life?
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Tombo
post Jun 27 2018, 07:31 PM
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Howís Your Social life?

Mine is pretty bad tbh. Since moving back in to my parents house in a remote town, it has completely plummeted and I have no one around to socialise with. I go to lots for exercise classes but people donít really speak much and Meetup isnít a thing in my area and the ones I could travel to are usually in the evenings so I wouldnít have transport options to get back.

I stay busy and as active as I can but there is still a glaringly large hole in my life in the socialising department

How are things for yíall?
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post Jun 27 2018, 07:37 PM
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My social life is good rn, I have a really solid group of friends, but I can see my social life PLUMMETING whenever I move school Cus Iím shit at making new friends whoops
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post Jun 27 2018, 07:51 PM
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I don't particularly want to vote 'bad' because I made a new friend in real life recently (thank goodness for apps is all I will say) and that's pretty much all I asked for lmao so... I think it was specifically "make at least one new friend in real life before you're 30" tongue.gif I think one of the big 'annoyances' is that I've never really had, at least in my adult life, a group of like-minded friends to do stuff with which at my lowest emotional states results in me feeling sorta 'left behind' socially oops. I mean it used to get really bad. I was ridiculously shy and nervous at uni so not even that environment helped socially. A while back I kept buying myself all these party games / board games cos I liked them and then realized I don't particularly have a group of people to invite over to play them with ohmy.gif

So yeah, would like it to improve but not sure how to vote in the first question as I got what I wanted and I'm tired of feeling so demanding.
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post Jun 27 2018, 08:07 PM
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QUOTE(Q. @ Jun 27 2018, 08:51 PM) *
I don't particularly want to vote 'bad' because I made a new friend in real life recently (thank goodness for apps is all I will say) and that's pretty much all I asked for lmao so... I think it was specifically "make at least one new friend in real life before you're 30" tongue.gif I think one of the big 'annoyances' is that I've never really had, at least in my adult life, a group of like-minded friends to do stuff with which at my lowest emotional states results in me feeling sorta 'left behind' socially oops. I mean it used to get really bad. I was ridiculously shy and nervous at uni so not even that environment helped socially. A while back I kept buying myself all these party games / board games cos I liked them and then realized I don't particularly have a group of people to invite over to play them with ohmy.gif

So yeah, would like it to improve but not sure how to vote in the first question as I got what I wanted and I'm tired of feeling so demanding.



Hey, which app did you use to make a friend? Was it Bumble BFF? Iíve been using that but thereís not many people in my area.

Sorry to hear about the board games situation. In time Iím sure you will get to play them (if you havenít done already)
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post Jun 27 2018, 08:11 PM
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I voted 'okay', because I've drifted from a lot of my school friends but I still have a few of them plus my University friends. I guess it's all going to change now with everyone moving back home though. I'd say the peak of my social life was during sixth form a few years ago.
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post Jun 27 2018, 08:12 PM
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QUOTE(Tombo @ Jun 27 2018, 09:07 PM) *
Hey, which app did you use to make a friend? Was it Bumble BFF? Iíve been using that but thereís not many people in my area.

Sorry to hear about the board games situation. In time Iím sure you will get to play them (if you havenít done already)

It wasn't specifically a friend app if you get my drift kink.gif I think I had a look at Bumble BFF recently, I doubt there are many in my area on that too.

Thanks! I think the problem is I get nervous / start overthinking in big group situations like uni etc and find myself unable to continuously connect with people in situations like that, which is why I prefer meeting people one-to-one first.
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post Jun 27 2018, 08:43 PM
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Crap and it sucks.
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post Jun 28 2018, 05:57 AM
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It's nonexistent and it doesn't bother me.
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post Jun 28 2018, 01:02 PM
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Normally pretty shit. Itís been a bit better since I left Manchester temporarily. Back home and catching up with friends and then here on holiday itís been good because again Iím catching up with friends. Itís been nearly 5 years since Iíve seen this crowd
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post Jun 28 2018, 01:15 PM
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I put okay because at this moment I've not been able to hang out with people because I'm skint or working but I've got plenty of people I could make plans with so generally it's good laugh.gif
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post Jun 28 2018, 01:21 PM
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Bad and yes kink.gif

I sadly don't have any friends in my home town any more - I drifted from all of my school friends over the years, and these days they're just Facebook contacts that I don't communicate with laugh.gif (or in some cases very rarely chat to, and it's the sort of chat that wouldn't lead to a suggestion of a meet up, because it's just been too long and we're too distant).

I'm still in contact with some of my friends from college days (I went to college about half an hour drive away from where I live), but those friendships are mostly maintained online. When it comes to actually meeting up, it's occasional and requires planning because they live all over the place.

I have great friendships with people I met online (obviously including here *.*). People who I genuinely consider to be some of my closest friends, but it's still the same situation - they're occasional meet ups like for concerts, as much as I wish it could be more frequent. sad.gif

It would be nice to have friends who I could see very regularly and spontaneously, but the idea of attempting to make new friends at this point is daunting to me.
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post Jun 28 2018, 06:21 PM
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I put ok, we don't really do much at uni nowadays as everyone is working, gone home or still on placement but at least for the next month I'm living here still and with my housemates so even if we just watch TV in the evening that's doing something I guess. I'd love it to improve because I'm always happiest when I've got a lot of stuff to do and keep busy with, I like having plans to look forward.
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post Jun 28 2018, 08:48 PM
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Mine is okay, which is better than I could've said a couple years ago. Most of my original friends have moved away which made me feel painfully alone for a while, but luckily another group of friends from high school has taken me in! I usually have at least one thing to look forward to each weekend which is all I need really. I rarely see anyone during the week but that doesnít bother me as much. Iím very close with my cousins and other relatives so a lot of my plans are with them as opposed to with friends.

One thing that I struggle with is that Iím often the one to reach out and try to make plans, and I always worry that Iím coming across as desperate/lonely even though itís just a normal thing and I know Iím overthinking it. I donít know why but I always feel SO awkward and weak just for asking to spend time with people, even close friends, idk if anyone can relate to that? Itís just a necessary evil because if I donít do it then I wonít have any plans and will feel even worse laugh.gif
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post Jun 28 2018, 09:21 PM
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^Nah I get that too, I mean it's not like there's a rational reason as my friend nearly always says yes, but it's always so hard to initiate. Socially awkward problems kink.gif I'd love to be the one that's asked to everything, but that's been a rare occurance alas D:

Mine is not particularly good but not atrocious so somewhere between bad and OK, I do still have one friend I see semi-regularly and a couple I speak to online every so often. I interact a lot with people on my job in the week, I'm close with my family and and I do naturally like my time alone when I have things to keep me busy and look forward to so it's not too bad, but sometimes it can get lonely and it's just nice to have people you can rely on to see every so often.
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post Jun 28 2018, 09:26 PM
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Mine is... great? I had a phase a few months ago where I totally isolated nearly all my friends but I've started going out with them all again now - helps that not many of my sixth form friends ended up going to Uni so we're all still here in the same town.

Somehow my close group of ~10 is still going strong, dunno how but I'm not complaining.
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post Jun 28 2018, 09:29 PM
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Mine is quiet and I like it that way. True, I don't know that many friends from uni or before that around where I currently live, but I talk with enough people to not get lonely and I don't feel I'm missing out on anything (with the exception of dating opportunities, which is another issue and I don't care enough to make that my sole reason for seeking out more of a social life).

Most of the time I'd far rather have an evening in (talking with friends online ofc) than be out doing something anyway.
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