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post Wednesday, 12:29 PM
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So one of my close friends had her birthday on Saturday - it had been planned for months in advance for a meal in Portsmouth and cocktails, it was a whole day thing and she had to pay a deposit but because of the football - the amount of people who cancelled and let her down was ridiculous and in my opinion, completely selfish.

I personally hate people who cancel plans last minute or for selfish reasons such as above, what are you like?! I only do it if I absolutely have to and then if I do, I will make sure to rearrange and make it up to them. It's personally one of my worst traits in someone who cancels plans or doesn't do something just because there is something they would rather do.
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post Wednesday, 12:44 PM
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I am really bad for nor turning up and then sending a message maybe a week later saying oops. I should work on that tbh
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post Wednesday, 04:12 PM
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I don't think I've ever really had plans to cancel but there's no way I'd do anything like that, it'd just make me feel so bad. I would lose a lot of trust in people who cancel plans as well.
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post Wednesday, 04:36 PM
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One of my absolute worst things tbh drama.gif Obviously if something comes up I understand but people just clearly can't be arsed or are being selfish I don't have time for it. I've got a friend who often just cancels right before without a reason and it feels like in that case they didn't want to go or do anything in the first place, in which case I'd rather someone was just like "actually nah I don't feel like it" in the first place... When you make plans and look forward to them and then people just let you down for no good reason it really pisses me off tbh. It makes you feel like you don't matter or are second best to whatever they'd clearly rather be doing drama.gif
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post Wednesday, 05:24 PM
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Im so savage I feel you cancel on me I will never be the on end to arrange plans again 😂 I think it's an indicator of who Ian a good friend and who isn't tbh.
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post Wednesday, 06:16 PM
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I remember our staff party being arranged 2 years ago for the night Wales played Belgium in the Euros (I mean who even thought theyd get that far?) but we all went, found a tv and were stupidly drunk celebrating the Wales win!
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post Wednesday, 07:39 PM
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I'd be glad for a reason to avoid a football match tbh

I'd only cancel if I was too ill to make it or as happened at the start of the year, the house got broken into and made me feel too shaken to go on a night out after.
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post Wednesday, 08:46 PM
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Im pretty bad tbh
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someone i was meeting yesterday (planned a day in advance and agreed upon) cancelled an hour before the thing saying his friend asked him to go with him somewhere and he said yes. i was soooo close to blocking him

i'm a loyal bitch, i neverrrrr cancel plans unless it's something truly important


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post Wednesday, 10:55 PM
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I always feel really guilty when I have to cancel plans but sometimes my head doesn't feel like it is in the right place to want to go out. I'd never be like "cba" and cancel, there'd be some kind of reason behind it. Or I'll just compromise, tagging along to an event but then leaving early. I do love making plans though, I was quite often a friend who was left out of plans during awkward school years so it does feel really good to be included, just the thought is lovely even if I can't go.
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post Thursday, 11:29 PM
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I'm mostly pretty reliable but sometimes it's really hard to attend stuff because of reasons lol and it either means I turn up extremely late and visibly flustered or I don't turn up at all.

But cancelling plans to make another plan is a completely different thing. If the football is that important then the most you can do is look to compromise by going somewhere that's showing the game for a couple of hours while still doing the rest of the day, and even then that could be rude if the birthday girl isn't interested.


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post Thursday, 04:56 AM
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Luckily I'm rarely on either side of this happening. I always feel incredibly guilty turning anyone down even for entirely legitimate reasons, so I can only think of once or twice ever that I cancelled on someone.

Cancelling on someone's birthday plans is such a low blow! I agree with Jack that it's best to at least reschedule and try to make it up to the person you're cancelling on, that seems like such an obvious thing to me so it bothers me when someone doesn't show that courtesy!
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post Thursday, 09:44 AM
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I don't tend to cancel (and usually I'm grateful to have something on lolol) unless I happen to be experiencing ~reasons~ similar to Harve, in which case going anywhere can be quite daunting. I do have a condition similar to bipolar disorder (the diagnosis has changed as far as I know, and I'm perhaps an unusual case where I've only had one major episode 10 years ago but now have "minor" week-long episodes like twice a year which are extremely mysterious and no one knows what exactly they are, including myself which is very frustrating...but I'm likely somewhere on the bipolar spectrum) and once I feel like I can't really go anywhere because of this, I just refuse to go. I've had to miss work for a week too which I felt bad about but it was necessary. I used to worry that it would change people's view of me or something but thankfully most people seem fairly understanding about this sort of thing.
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post Thursday, 02:24 PM
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The simple solution is not to be born between mid-June and mid-July. That way you avoid having your birthday in the middle of a football tournament every two years tongue.gif
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post Friday, 12:01 PM
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Id recommend cancelling to a friend that just made plans with me.

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