I should be on my way to a meeting. I'll try to get back on later tonight.

I went to see the Proclaimers over the weekend and they were absolutely brilliant. The same couldnt be said about the support band who were called Uncle Bob, singer out of tune and absolutely deafoning noise. The Proclaimers got through a large number of songs all extremely well sung and harmonised without any blips at all to a great reception.

 

I am also thinking of you Meg and your mum.

I'm back, my father-in-law thinks he doesn't live here, his bed room isn't his and he shouldn't be asked to change his clothes just because he has an accident in them, my Mum collapsed in the bathroom. Tomorrow is going to be fun.

Sorry to hear you're in the thick of it again.

Oh dear, poor you Meg

 

How's your mum this morning?

Mum's tired and sore. If she hasn't improved we'll get the doctor who's coming next week to check her as well.

I'm back, my father-in-law thinks he doesn't live here, his bed room isn't his and he shouldn't be asked to change his clothes just because he has an accident in them, my Mum collapsed in the bathroom. Tomorrow is going to be fun.

 

It sounds like you and your family are having a really tough time at the moment Meg!

 

Thinking of you......

 

Julie

 

Love and light!

 

I should be wrapping up 3 birthday presents. October is one of my family's bumper months.

We have loads of birthdays end of Oct to beginning of November.

I should be in bed.

 

Hope you have a better night Meg

 

Thank goodness you have a sense of humour, Meg, you are certainly having it

rough at the moment. I hope things improve.

He's a bit better but can't dress himself at all at the moment. Everything is running late as he's insisting on shaving himself. He normally has lunch at 13:00 but I need him to sleep before then so that it doesn't keep falling out of his mouth. I haven't managed to get himout of the bathroom yet though. Just going to try again now.

 

Mum's a lot better and is back to thinking she can do things she certainly can't. The red marks on her head are becoming bruise coloured. I mended the loo, so that's OK now.

I'm glad she's feeling a bit better. Tell her from me she should take it easy and not try to do too much.

I will, Nina - it'll have the same effect as me telling her to take things gently. Her sister is critical again but I haven't told her as she's too fragile. They are trying to control her sister's internal bleeding. I hope I've got my father-in-law back to a state that he can be left with my husband before anything else happens.

 

I should think you are tearing your hair out by now. Hope things get better.

I think you're right not to tell your mother everything, megham. I had to do the same thing. My aunt was terminally ill, wasting away and at the stage where she didn't know anybody, even her own daughter. It was deeply distressing and my mother was getting more and more worried and more ill herself with every visit. I felt guilty. I still do, but in my heart I know it was for the best for Mum.

Sometimes, they are going to be really upset when the ones they love die but, if you can keep them on an even keel by with holding just the worse bits, it makes it easier for everyone to deal with. Nothing can take away the sorrow of losing someone, I just want to keep her well enough to handle it. She had her stroke the day she was told her eldest sister had died, I just don't want a repetition of that. I've also stopped her repeatedly phoning my cousin as she has just too much to deal wih with her Mum facing death without coping with mine as well.

 

My father-in-law is denying he has a problem with incontinence. I've bought pads and put them on him but he's upset because he believes he never has accidents. I just can't keep up with the washing and the house is beginning to smell. The bedding is the biggest problem. I don't know what else to do with him at the moment.

It's hard if he won't cooperate.

It's hard if he won't cooperate.

About 1:30 this mornng I found him standing with out his pyjama bottoms or the pads so he could wee on the arpet. I've always said we'd never send him to a home as he'd hate it but I don't know how long we can keep up with being awake for most of the night and then starting again the next morning. I'm just going to get him up and get his breakfast. At least he has slept - I wish we'd managed the same.