Britain has the highest number of single mother families in Europe.With teenage pregnancies still a huge problem with no obvious solution either from Government or the families concerned, should teenage mums automatically go to the head of the queue for a house.

 

One school of thought to the reason for the high numbers is low self esteem and lack of hope and aspiration as well as the historic notion someone else will pay for the baby and provide a home.

 

30 years ago, when it was a rarity and a local scandal for a young, single girl to get pregnant, there was a presumption that the father would "do the right thing" and that the family would look after their daughter.

 

Today these single mothers demand a house for themselves and their baby all at the taxpayers expense.

 

Is it time to bring this to a halt. This may seem harsh but to blame society for everything and expect the rest of us to pick up the tab is ridiculous. Responsibility lies with both the family and the individual. If there were no free house at the end would individuals maybe think twice before bringing a child into the world they cannot afford to look after.

Britain has the highest number of single mother families in Europe.With teenage pregnancies still a huge problem with no obvious solution either from Government or the families concerned, should teenage mums automatically go to the head of the queue for a house.

 

One school of thought to the reason for the high numbers is low self esteem and lack of hope and aspiration as well as the historic notion someone else will pay for the baby and provide a home.

 

30 years ago, when it was a rarity and a local scandal for a young, single girl to get pregnant, there was a presumption that the father would "do the right thing" and that the family would look after their daughter.

 

Today these single mothers demand a house for themselves and their baby all at the taxpayers expense.

 

Is it time to bring this to a halt. This may seem harsh but to blame society for everything and expect the rest of us to pick up the tab is ridiculous. Responsibility lies with both the family and the individual. If there were no free house at the end would individuals maybe think twice before bringing a child into the world they cannot afford to look after.

 

What about mothers who become single through divorce should they be treated the same way ??

 

I only know 2 single mums and they absolutely adore their kids even though the mums are 19 and 22 and they would do anything for them, if I was a kid I would rather be bought up by those 2 single mothers than be bought up by 2 married career people who show me no love and affection and palm me off to the nanny then think things will be ok by buying me a PS2

 

Single mothers are not bad mothers

 

You seem to think that material possessions and money are all that a kid needs

 

You read the Daily Mail far too much

Edited August 30, 200618 yr by Ozzy Osbourne

What about mothers who become single through divorce should they be treated the same way ??

 

I only know 2 single mums and they absolutely adore their kids even though the mums are 19 and 22 and they would do anything for them, if I was a kid I would rather be bought up by those 2 single mothers than be bought up by 2 married career people who show me no love and affection and palm me off to the nanny then think things will be ok by buying me a PS2

 

Single mothers are not bad mothers

 

You seem to think that material possessions and money are all that a kid needs

 

You read the Daily Mail far too much

 

 

I never said they were bad mothers, what's your solution then to the problem or do you not think it is a problem.

 

I don't buy any daily newspapers for your info, but i do read a few articles online ,not anyone in particular.

Edited August 30, 200618 yr by brian91

I never said they were bad mothers, what's your solution then to the problem or do you not think it is a problem.

 

There is no solution its the way of the world, my sole concern is the welfare and care of the child if the mother is devoted and caring and whatever then I am prepared as a taxpayer to fund the housing and benefits of that child if the mother is not then thats a matter for social services and adoption agencies

 

I know of and have come across and even work with some appalling parents who are married and just treat their kid as a commodity, I am more concerned about the welfare of a kid in that sort of environment than I am the welfare of the kid being bought up by a loving and devoted albeit not financially secure single mum

My mum's now a single parent because my dad cheated on her then left. We might have to go back to a council house but it's not her fault if she can't afford to keep our house.

 

And the bit about don't bring a child into the world if you can't look after them. What if it's all fine for years and years and then they get divorced? You don't know what's gonna happen...

Edited August 30, 200618 yr by x-The_Royston_Poisoner-x

I'm really sorry to hear about your parents. It must be very difficult for you all at the moment.

 

I think Brian's point wasn't about women who unfortunately become single parents because of circumstances such as divorce, but of young girls who become pregnant and expect to be given a house.

It's a tough one but if there's a kid involved, you can't really deny them a house and expect them to make do. I'm sure money's been far worse spent then giving people a home.

I would far rather a council house goes to an indigenous person who has spent their life in England and been educated in England than to some asylum seeker / economic migrant who is just here for the easy life

There is no solution its the way of the world, my sole concern is the welfare and care of the child if the mother is devoted and caring and whatever then I am prepared as a taxpayer to fund the housing and benefits of that child if the mother is not then thats a matter for social services and adoption agencies

 

I know of and have come across and even work with some appalling parents who are married and just treat their kid as a commodity, I am more concerned about the welfare of a kid in that sort of environment than I am the welfare of the kid being bought up by a loving and devoted albeit not financially secure single mum

 

I agree with most of your points, however if "some" get pregnant purely to get a free house then by giving them exactly this just encourages the situation to continue. Its common knowledge that this goes on up and down the country. I'm not saying take away the houses from those who have one, but to start the process of stopping this continuing in perpetuity. If single mothers are getting all the council houses this prevents other people(single men & women with no kids,couples with no kidsetc) on low incomes getting a house that they probably deserve just as much but they don't earn enough points to get one.

I would far rather a council house goes to an indigenous person who has spent their life in England and been educated in England than to some asylum seeker / economic migrant who is just here for the easy life

 

 

well that is another arguement we can discuss :dance:

My mum's now a single parent because my dad cheated on her then left. We might have to go back to a council house but it's not her fault if she can't afford to keep our house.

 

And the bit about don't bring a child into the world if you can't look after them. What if it's all fine for years and years and then they get divorced? You don't know what's gonna happen...

 

 

Totally sympathise with you, my story as well when I was younger. But I was not meaning people like your mum.