We've been playing BJFF and lost. :arrr:

 

I've got sun stroke so i'm off for tonight. :cry:

Awwww darl I got that over the weekend but I am trying to use protection (not connie :smoke: )

 

Rest up and come talk to me 2moro if I'm about - we need a catchup :smoke:

We've been playing BJFF and lost. :arrr:

 

I've got sun stroke so i'm off for tonight. :cry:

We were so close :( Oh well ^_^ Bye Kelly.

:smoke: © Graham Christopher Scott.

 

You must get my permission before you use it in a frickin competition again -_-

I cursed you so you'd lose muwahahaha.

:smoke: © Graham Christopher Scott.

 

You must get my permission before you use it in a frickin competition again -_-

I cursed you so you'd lose muwahahaha.

I think we were forced to use it :unsure: Mr Scott ^_^

Edited June 21, 200718 yr by Flatcap

Oh I see, I forget you're out of the way a bit :D

It's nearly 10 miles to the nearest cinema for me. -_-

Well I think its time you had to ask for mine or the queens permission to use :smoke:

 

 

Well I think its time you had to ask for mine or the queens permission to use :smoke:

Nah -_- I think you iz forgetting I iz the king :smoke:

I am the true queen :smoke:

I have rekindled my love for Avril Lavigne the REAL POP/ROCK GODDESS :smoke:

 

 

Discuss :)

 

After Puffta released the results of its first gay teen sex survey in 2004 - revealing that a massive 46% of gay teens are having regular unprotected sex – 20 year old Adam got in touch with them to reveal his frank and honest diary of being HIV+.

 

After hearing his story Puffta launched www.positiveadam.co.uk, Adam's own online diary covering what it's like to be young, gay and HIV+. You can track his counts, read what it feels like to be told you're positive and hopefully understand why using condoms and having safe sex is important, no matter what kind of sex you're having or with whom.

 

As his website says, Being HIV+ positive doesn't mean an end to your health and I hope this diary entertains, educates and gives you the chance to ask any questions you might have.

 

We caught with Adam to find out more.

 

You've set up a website to tell your story. What was it that inspired you to start the site?

I saw the results of the puffta 2004 sex survey and it was shocking to see so many young people having unsafe sex. I think I just wanted to make sure young gay men and teenagers are really aware of the dangers of unsafe sex and what it means to their health.

It's not a disease that only people in the 1980s got, it's here and more prevalent than ever. I also wanted to get across that it's not just a case of being diagnosed and then taking some pills years later, it really does interfere with your life - having to go to the clinic twice every few months, explaining to work where you're going, even simple things like deciding to have a flu jab, you have to be informed about your health.

 

What's the response been like?

It's been odd. I've had straight lads email me, I thought they would be judging me and telling me it's my own fault (which is it) but they've been asking questions about how I got it and how they might get it from their partners. So it's reaching far wider than just the gay teens I wanted to connect with.

 

On the site you list your CD4 count and Viral Load? So how are you doing at the moment?

Well my last count of CD4 610 and Viral Load at 19,000 is really good. My counts do seem to vary, and people pick up on this when they check the site. I get emails asking if I'm ok, it's really nice to know people are out there thinking about me and checking up on me.

Although my CD4 has gone down a little and my Viral Load has gone up, the actual percentages have stayed the same so I'm doing fine, and don't have anything to worry about right now. I doubt I will, my care has been fantastic, the Doctors and Nurses have been amazing.

 

The safe sex message doesn't always seem to be getting through. What can be done to get the message out there to gay men, in particular young gay men?

I think any campaign needs to speak to young gay men in their own environment and language. School teachers and parents aren't likely to tell their kids about the dangers of unsafe sex. Yes, they talk about the fact that using a condom stops STD's and unwanted pregnancy, but I just don't think they're going into enough detail about the real dangers.

A chronic disease is totally different to picking up a STD that can be treated with a couple of weeks of antibiotics.

 

Why do you think gay men are still having risky sex?

It's hot, it's risky and we all like taking risks. Plus, it's easier than putting on a condom. FACT. I think we've had condom overload; yes, we all know about condoms; yes, we know we should use them but the fact is, we don't. Drugs get in the way, and when you're doing all your thinking with your c**k or your arse a little bit of rubber just isn't sexy.

I think this generation of young gay men will start to get the message once one or two of their friends come out again and say they're positive. It's too late then though. Something needs to be done now, and I hope my site and diary adds to the bigger picture of prevention.

What were the factors behind you becoming positive?

I had unsafe sex. I was a having a low in life, drugs and sex seem to go hand in hand in some circles and I got mixed in with other positive guys and let them **** me bareback. At the time, I didn't think anything of it, I was too high. But as soon as I started to come down I'd worry about what I'd done to my body.

What was your response when you were told you were HIV +?

On the 1st of December 2004 I went to my local G.U.M clinic, had all the routine tests done including my HIV test. Everything came back clear, but I had to wait a couple of weeks for the HIV test.

Time for my results. My heart was beating so fast, it would have been OK to cry, and I think I should have, but I just sort of sucked it back, took a deep breath and looked at her. She asked if it was a surprise. She didn't really need to ask, the notes about me held by the G.U.M clinic were very comprehensive, think of a copy of Gay Times or Attitude and how many pages they have, that was the size of my file. Kind of embarrassing really.

 

What would to say to someone who was scared to find out their status?

Do it. You need to know either way. If the result is positive, you will get the best treatment imaginable. You're in a better position than so many who don't realise they're carrying it, and are possibly giving it to other people. You'll become empowered to make informed decisions about your health.

If you're negative, was that the scare you needed to make you always use condoms?

 

Do you think everyone should know whether they are positive or not?

Yes. You're carrying a disease that you could be giving to other people if you're having unsafe sex. It's everybody's responsibility to protect each other.

 

What advice would you give to anyone who has been recently diagnosed as positive?

Don't think that being HIV positive is an end to your health. It's not. When I found out one of my positive friends was on hand to talk to I put a happy face on everything, it's how I protect myself. There isn't anything I can do about it, so no point feeling depressed about it. I'm sure that will come with time.

Instead, we we're kind of morbid about it. I said, "I guess I best stop smoking", he said, "why bother, it's time off your life you don't have anyway."

It sounds terrible, but if you could have seen the looks on our faces, we just burst our laughing. I felt much better after I had spoken to somebody who was also positive. I don't really have many fears - I guess those will come with time too.

What drugs do I have to take, rejection from other lads and telling my friends and family - it's something we all have to deal with, but talking to somebody who has gone through it all - and come out at the other end - has been really important to me.

HIV is now seen as a very manageable illness. What has helped you deal with your diagnosis the most?

My friends. WOW. They've been excellent. All of them are so pleased that I've told them. I've educated them about it and they've given me the support when I'm feeling down. I know they're there for me. Even if you don't have close friends you can confide in, there are people, like me, who you can talk, email, meet and ask any questions. Somebody has the answer.

What are you thoughts on the recent stories about a man being "cured" of AIDS?

I hope it doesn't turn out to be a hoax. He could offer some really important answers to how we cope and defeat HIV and AIDS long-term. Though at the moment there seems to be contradicting information, some papers are saying he wants to help, but his hospital say he's not willing to have any further tests.

He deserves to have his privacy, but if he can really help in finding new drugs or a vaccine he's got a great responsibility and he needs to decide what he's going to do with it.

What's your position on telling sexual partners about your positive status?

It varies. I get young lads online wanting to shag, usually bareback, and I ask them if they're positive. They say no, I say yes, and there is usually a silence.

I do still have unsafe sex with other positive men, if that's going to happen I always discuss it. If we're going to use condoms, I don't feel the need to. Why should I? It's safer sex and the risk is very low. That's what condoms are for.

 

Poz parties seem to be one of the media's current popular stories at the moment. What's your opinion on this?

They do happen. It is harmful though. Drug resistance is getting more prevalent and we're in danger of stopping the only thing that is - and will - keep us alive: the drugs.

I don't think you'll ever get positive men to stop having bareback sex with other positive men. Education still needs to continue in this area though; we need to know the dangers and the consequences, which are obvious.

What's the importance of World Aids Day?

It's important for so many different reasons: celebration of the work that the doctors, nurses and scientists are doing for HIV positive people; educating those who need it most, like people living in Africa and closer to home; working together to cut the ignorance; and remembering those who have died and those who are living with the disease.

 

So, what does it mean to you?

World Aids Day will always remind me of the day I went to get tested

 

I was directed to this by a friend and I was touched by it. No I'm not trying to go on about homsexuality as I think this applies to everyone whatever your sexuality and is something everyone should be aware of.

Anyway enjoy reading <3

 

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awwww thats really good that hes getting the word out though :)

I am the true queen :smoke:

I have rekindled my love for Avril Lavigne the REAL POP/ROCK GODDESS :smoke:

Discuss :)

'Let Go' is very patchy. That's about all the discussion I have on Avril.

 

Another discussion for this thread....

 

Why must people on this site be so argumentative?

I try and be diplomatic but some people are so rude (none of you lot). It's tiring. Sometimes you post on this forum and your posts - and you - get insulted and you've no idea why.

Why must be people be like this? :angry:

Edited July 19, 200619 yr by Tim

As people are ignorant and far too self-righteous and also refuse to listen to anything anyone says to them? I experience all of those on this site -_-

 

And Let Go was a bit juvenile for me but Under My Skin was love :wub:

 

Beats Kelly C anyday :cheer:

we lost to a bunch of flops :P

Yay :cheer: All you have to say is Avril beats Clarkson anyday to gain my respect <3

And hmmmmm some people just odn't like being proved to be wrong or whatever I just argue cos I feel like it when I'm in a mood. ^_^

i feel happy and sad at the same time.

 

I just had a great time with my girlfriend in the peak district, even with her parents present most of the time. and the day was excellent, but then when Cat (my girlfriend for those who don't know) asked her mum if she could come around mine and all for the first time she said probably not. So Cat asked about other days and her mum kept giving reasons. It's like fate is trying to keep us apart (their have been other things) but we feel so good together! and it's p***ing me off loads that her mum will only let me see her at her place! :(

 

it's so stressful, i want to be with her so much :(

i feel happy and sad at the same time.

 

I just had a great time with my girlfriend in the peak district, even with her parents present most of the time. and the day was excellent, but then when Cat (my girlfriend for those who don't know) asked her mum if she could come around mine and all for the first time she said probably not. So Cat asked about other days and her mum kept giving reasons. It's like fate is trying to keep us apart (their have been other things) but we feel so good together! and it's p***ing me off loads that her mum will only let me see her at her place! :(

 

it's so stressful, i want to be with her so much :(

Are her parents the highly strung type? -_-

Are her parents the highly strung type? -_-

sort of, when i first met them her father wouldn't even look at me let alone speak to me (he only said a few words to me today) her mother seems alright.

 

They don't seem to realise we want to be together :(

Well I wouldn't advise talking to them incase you come across as telling them what to do, all you can do really is just carry on what you're doing and hope you grow on them. :(

 

Could you not say you're going to the pictures or something and then just go back to yours? :blink:

Well I wouldn't advise talking to them incase you come across as telling them what to do, all you can do really is just carry on what you're doing and hope you grow on them. :(

 

Could you not say you're going to the pictures or something and then just go back to yours? :blink:

I know, but i want to be with her.

 

I would, if she lived near me and there was a cinema in town -_-

 

i don't get to see her much and most of are relationship is over MSN, so i really want her to be here with me :(

Aww babe. :(

 

So you know each other from? MSN? Internet? How often do you meet up?