Jesy Nelson: Life After Little Mix

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42 minutes ago, Mr. C. Joel said:

Just wow she really is incredible. Obviously she's made mistakes but the way she is conducting herself and genuinely cares / is fighting for change whilst dealing with it all herself is just so admirable. I genuinely think her own demons as a result of the endless trolling is the main cause of her mistakes if I'm honest like the black fishing / the way she left Little Mix etc when you look back were probably fuelled by her severe insecurities rather than ignorance or just being a bit of a d*ck.

I agree. I'm not a fan of some of Jesy's behaviour at all but it's so obvious that the horrific abuse she got during X-Factor traumatized her and probably led to some body dysmorphia and trust me, as someone who deals with this myself, it really can distort the way you see yourself and you do go to drastic measures to change your appearance. She obviously felt more comfortable with the wigs and the fake tan and I don't begrudge her for that all. My issue with her was how she didn't defend Leigh on the Insta Live and how she sort of fetishized black culture on the Boyz video. I know alot of people defend Leigh and she deffo didn't deserve the abuse she got from Nicki but even Leigh has been hypocritical with her stances by literally fronting a documentary on racism in the music industry and then supporting Tulisa (white woman) against Misha B (black woman) on Instagram....during Black Lives Matter.

Both girls have been very frustrating to support and there's obviously alot of layers and context to their relationship. I really hope all four can reunite at some point but Jesy definitely needs to take accountability for some of her actions around the Boyz release campaign.

Edit - Like, I really can't believe I'm defending Jesy but I am trying to be non biased here. While the Boyz video was a mess and some of the things she did during promo (implying it was the other girls who had the problem on Graham Norton, the Jingle Bell Ball performance and the press photos of her with a jacket saying 'black' on it) were very problematic, I will say that the whole Instagram Live thing with Nicki was a mess and a bad idea BUT I do think that it may have been hard to push back on Nicki and show assertiveness when the majority of people viewing were Nicki's fans, she had her debut song out with her that week and the last thing she would want to do is stand up to someone as intimidating and aggressive as Nicki with her fanbase watching. She did look mortified and I could tell she regretted it but at the same time she didn't help herself by talking about Leigh in the first place and she did nothing afterwards to try and diffuse the situation even when Nicki and her fans were posting pics of Leigh on social media and leaving sick comments under her post.

So yeah she does deserve criticism but I think there's some important nuance to the wigs/tanning and the Instagram Live itself.

Edited 9 hours ago9 hr by shadow2009